You Break Up?:
He rightly recognized that he could not offer her what she needed. As a result, she was in pain. She needed more than he could offer, perhaps in terms of time, commitment, connection, intimacy. Neither partner was right or wrong, but clearly they were not a match.
Being together resulted in them both feeling bad, for different reasons. For her, it hurts when the person you are with won’t or can’t give you what you need. For him, it’s uncomfortable, maybe even guilt inducing or irritating, to be with someone whose needs you know you are not meeting.
In this case, by staying with this woman, the guy was in essence,
If we dug deeper into their histories, we’d find a family story that supported each of these familiar roles. A role you are destined to repeat, only until you chose a different one.
In a situation like this, the most loving action the man could take would be to tenderly break up with her, to free her from the painful cycle of wanting more than she ever receives from him.
To do it with a clean break would offer his partner the most important gift- the gift of a new beginning.
Of course, she could also dig deep to find the strength to give herself the greatest gift of all: Moving on, knowing that she will never again accept less than she deserves.
This couple had different needs in terms of Comfort with Closeness- the most pivotal of compatibility factors. When your needs don't naturally match up with your partner's needs, it's time to move on.
Is there someone you need to give the gift of freedom? Or is it time to claim your self worth and move on? Time's a'wasting. Do it today!
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